I was wondering aloud to my husband about why people keep saying they hated the final Star Wars (Skywalker) movie and why so many make ridiculous, dramatic claims about it ruining their lives or being the worst thing ever, and he brought up a criticism about the movie: they did Rose wrong. It struck me …
My Life
As we get to a tough season of the year with the holidays and impeachment and such, I wish you love and joy and confidence. You are who you are supposed to be regardless of what others wish for you. Don’t apologize unless you have something to be sorry for. “If I didn’t define myself …
Mother Taught Me
The last month or so, I’ve been frustrated by a new bone the misogynists have dug up and are very excited to chew on. They post a picture of the first lady (Melania Trump), and they make lewd and rude comments about her looks, her dress, her breasts, her nipples, her eyes, her face, etc. …
Hi. My Name Is Gray. . .
. . .and I’m a bigot. And so are you. Did I hurt your feelings? Are you clutching your pearls right now, offended and incensed at my gall, wondering how I could make such an assumption? It might hurt to hear, but it’s important to understand. I loathe this saying, but this is one of …
Out of Bubble Gum
Before one of us snaps and cuts a motherfucker, STOP letting men get away with saying “men gave women the right to vote.” Men didn’t give women shit. They stopped denying us our right to vote, and that is not the same as “giving us” something. We don’t give out cookies to men when they …
Hysteria, My Ass
To all of you who said we were hysterical about Trump: fuck you. To all of you who said we were hysterical about the continuous and ongoing attacks on the Affordable Care Act: fuck you. To all of you who said we were hysterical about Kavanaugh’s appointment: fuck you. If outlawing abortion was about protecting …
Not Up For Debate
There is something mysterious about going to a new place, the language people speak in words and with their bodies. Before we go to a new country we check first to learn the customs and which things are not said or done so that we can hopefully avoid inadvertently offending or upsetting someone. Their truths …
Tuning Up the Ol’ BS Detector
Writing in a blog has become, for me, a sort of effort to get out of my own head and out of my own ass. I can’t speak for other writers, but I spend a lot of time thinking. Don’t get me wrong; I’m reading other people’s work, conversations, debates, books (both fiction and non-fiction), …
Pride Goeth
We joke about Speaker Pelosi being the highest level official in the USA while the higher level sleazes of the GOP are out of the country at once. “Quick, throw their stuff out on the lawn and change the locks!” we jest, but around us in news in the United States of America are decidedly …
Teacher Legacy
(Coach Patti) “Uttech said she didn’t see a problem.” Awards are handed out to cheerleaders by coaches for, among other things, largest breasts or butts. In Kenosha, Wisconsin. In 2019. THIS is why men can’t understand the things they do and say hurt other human beings; it’s because women like this one also still think …